At a birthday celebration some years ago, a friend of ours raised a glass and said, “I never grew up and I never stopped growing.”<\/p>\n
What is emotional maturity? DJ Chuang<\/strong><\/a> writes, “Emotional maturity isn\u2019t something that necessarily grows with chronological age<\/strong>… Emotional maturity is being responsible for one\u2019s behaviors. Emotional maturity recognizes it\u2019s okay to feel. Emotional maturity doesn\u2019t mean every person will feel the same way about a situation.”<\/p>\n Ken Helfant<\/strong> is the author\u00a0of\u00a0Questions to Grow By: A Path to Emotional Maturity<\/em> (iUniverse, 2005). \u00a0Helfant has\u00a0a PhD in Educational and Social Psychology from Columbia University and is a graduate of the National Psychological Association for Psychoanalysis. He is currently in part-time private practice in Oceano, California.<\/p>\n In an editorial review of Helfant’s book,\u00a0Ronald E. Fox, former president of the American Psychological Association<\/a>, wrote, “Questions to Grow By<\/em> presents a very practical and engaging way for readers to move toward increased happiness through increased emotional maturity<\/strong>.”<\/p>\n See: \u00a0http:\/\/books.google.com\/books?id=OHrihQZjkGAC<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n Jerome L. Murray<\/strong> has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. He headed a mental health clinic in California for 15 years and was\u00a0honored by the\u00a0California State Senate for his contributions to the field of self-esteem. He is a consultant, speaker, and\u00a0author, including\u00a0a program for TrafficSchoolOnline.com in Napa and Sonoma counties (California).<\/p>\n Murray’s book, From Uptight to All Right<\/em>, published in 1987, was endorsed by Dr. Karl Menninger of the Menninger Foundation and made required reading by the Heart Research Foundation.<\/p>\n In an often quoted article on emotional maturity, Are You Growing Up or Just Getting Older?<\/em>, published in 1992, Murray wrote:<\/p>\n “We have no control over chronological age, and only minimal control over intellectual and physiological age; however, we can choose our social and emotional age<\/strong>… \u00a0A person may be chronologically mature, but emotionally immature. A person may also be intellectually mature, but emotionally immature… \u00a0Just because someone is \u201cgrown-up\u201d by age doesn\u2019t mean they are \u201cgrown-up\u201d emotionally… Your relationships are dependent upon your total emotional development<\/strong>.”<\/p>\n Murray lists four symptoms of emotional immaturity, eight characteristics of emotional maturity, and five ways to grow more emotionally mature.<\/p>\n See: <\/span>http:\/\/www.sonic.net\/~drmurray\/maturity.htm<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n Searching the Internet, we found several quizzes and tests for emotional maturity, including one by Dorothy McCoy, published in September 2008.<\/p>\n Dorothy McCoy<\/strong> is a psychiatrist, licensed professional counselor, and author of several books, including The Ultimate Book Of Personality Tests<\/em> (2005), From Shyness to Social Butterfly<\/em> (2002), and The Manipulative Man: Identify His Behavior, Counter the Abuse, Regain Contro<\/em>l (2006).<\/p>\n In her article,\u00a0Understanding Emotional Maturity<\/em>, McCoy wrote, “Extended, mutually satisfying relationships are the product of two emotionally mature individuals.”<\/p>\n Emotional Maturity Quizzes and Tests:<\/strong><\/p>\n 1) http:\/\/www.personalityone.com\/emotional-maturity-test.html<\/p>\n 2) http:\/\/www.mysticgames.com\/mysticgames_cfmfiles\/tests\/showtest.cfm?TestID=24<\/p>\n 3) http:\/\/www.bookofmatches.com\/Emotional_Maturity_Personality.html<\/p>\n There are also a number of Emotional Intelligence tests on the Internet. 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